Written by Allison J asked:
somewhat enjoyable or not the worst experience of my life, i am nervous about enough things to keep me from fulfilling a promise to have sex with my boyfriend on christmas, but need to know what will help to make sure that i can handle it correctly.
somewhat enjoyable or not the worst experience of my life, i am nervous about enough things to keep me from fulfilling a promise to have sex with my boyfriend on christmas, but need to know what will help to make sure that i can handle it correctly.
we are 17 years old. dating for 3 years and have as strong of a relationship as we can have as teens.
you promise your boyfriend to have sex for christmas? come on. sex should happen naturally not like a appointment.
Dont try anything to crazy or wild…just follow his lead you will be fine. Sex is kind of like dancing. Dont try anything to risky untill you feel confedant enough, relax and go with the flow,
He is gonna have a jolly Christmas.
promises are made to be broken, aren’t you a year early? If he is giving you any pressure whatsoever ,use your second thought…otherwise use a condom each time,if you’re a virgin don’t be surprised at the blood and pain and do tell him to be gentle and quit if you tell him to, because if he hurts you you have to hurt him back, like with a kick in the you know “things”.
i already answered your other one…if you really truly think that you are ready, then go for it! just use protection, condoms, condoms, condoms!!! but if you even have a slight hesitation NOT to? go with your instincts!
I can’t help but think that you are a little hesitant about doing this. You mentioned that you are:
1. nervous
2. expecting this to be somewhat enjoyable, but you’re not sure.
3. you have made a promise to have sex with your boyfriend on christmas.
4. you are on here seeking advice.
I’m sorry but you don’t sound like you’re really wanting to do this. If you have any doubts at all, DON’T DO IT!!!!!
The same thing happened to me when I was 17. I felt like my boyfriend would dump me if I didn’t do it. He said he just wanted to show me that he loved me. Does this sound familiar to you at all?
My advice, don’t do it until you are absolutely sure. If you truly wanted to do it, you would have done it already.
By the way, I didn’t do it. And guess what happened? He dumped me a week later. However, it was the best thing that could have happened. I moved on with my life and have been with my husband now for 15 years.