Entjik Jeffrie asked:

Many of us have had a broken heart and hurt feeling because the relationship that we had didn’t work out. It’s ok, we are not made to be a perfect human being but we can learn from our experience and move on toward our future. We make mistakes, we learn and we move on. You can’t do anything about your past, it is over, but you can do something about your future by what you do today!

Please keep these principals in mind the next time you start a new relationship with somebody new! These principals will work most of the time and you will see the difference in your current relationship and future relationship if you don’t have anybody right now, listen.

Principal number 1, you must forget the past! Especially your past ex-husband, ex-wife, ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, and so on! I have seen this happening over and over again. How a boyfriend talks about his ex-girlfriends every day to his new girlfriend! He keeps discussing about his past with his new girlfriend. Let get this straight and let me be firm for a moment, listen to this, “You can’t drive and go forward very fast when you keep looking at the rear-view mirror!” Stop it, quit talking about your past, it’s done, it’s finished, and you can’t do anything to bring it back! It’s done! It’s over! The current person who is with you is now more important than the ones in the past! If you’re still holding on to the past, I suggest that you are not qualified to have a new relationship! If you can’t respect the person who is being with you today, you’re not qualified to be in a relationship with him or her! Instead, talk about your future plan together with the person whom you’re being with. Talk about your dreams and goals with him/her together. What you would do together in the future and so on. The future is more exciting than the past, because you still have the chance to get in by what you do today!

Principal number 2, you must learn to forgive! Forgive, forgive, forgive and forgive! None of us are perfect in this world. None of us and every time when we drive on the freeway, sometimes we too make mistakes and we hope that other drivers to forgive our stupidity. I talked to a friend of mine who broke up with her boyfriend. She told me “I had given him 3 chances, to put the toilet paper at the right position, but its strike 3, it’s over man!” The man was very nice, but apparently he likes to face the tip of the toilet paper facing the wall. That really irritated her. Plus he didn’t like to eat what she likes to eat. Somebody asked me this question, “How about if he is very abusive and not loyal?” My answer was “If someone loves you and respect you, he will never abuse you and be disloyal!” The fact that he is abusive, rude, disloyal and disrespectful; it’s the sign that there is no love for you in his heart! To love somebody is to build someone up, support, respect, be loyal, and honor and cherish the other person. Learn to forgive the little things in life, because the little things are the ones that usually get into people. Learn to talk to each other without blaming attitude. No body likes to be blamed or condemned. Learn to say thing with kindness, patient and loving attitude. A kind word is an unkind word unsaid.

Principal number 3, you must have honesty and integrity in your relationship with him or her. There shouldn’t be any relationship that is based on lies and dishonestly. Sooner or later what you’ve been covering will be revealed. There is nothing more irritating than when you find somebody is lying to you. It hurts you, you feel betrayed and it destroys all the trust you have for the other person. The proof of love is pursuit, also the ability to respect the trust that the other person is giving to us. If you can’t trust a person, I don’t think, you should have any romantic relationship with him/her. Trust is gained through time, it is like putting a coin in the piggy bank, when you do something that will increases the trust that someone has for you, you add another coin to the bank, and when you do something dishonest and break the trust that someone has for you, you withdraw the coin out of your bank. If you keep withdrawing it, soon you won’t have any coin left. You won’t have anybody trusting you! Once you gain the trust that is given to you by the other person, try to keep it sacred and never ever take it for granted. If someone thinks that he/she can get away with cheating, that person is a foolish person.

I hope this helps. I wish you the best in your current relationship and to find the right person for your life. Remember this, a good communication and true love is like a treasure in every relationship. True love casts away fear, therefore when we feel secured and safe with the person that you’re with, you will have a long lasting relationship. “The right words said in the wrong time will become the wrong words.”

valentina o asked:


(im using my sister’s account so i am a guy)
She s so down and i know she waits until I m asleep so she can cry for hours and sometimes i comfort her and sometimes i leave her to it because i know she s trying to keep it secret from me. What i find confusing is that half the time she is so cheerful and funny and playful, i find it very confusing. How can i approach this and help her?
Is it something i m doing? On the whole our relationship is really strong, we ve been together a year and we love each other. (Both 19)

ghettoera asked:


I’ve been best friends with this guy for about a year now and in December he told me he had a huge crush on me and has since May. I pretty much had felt the same way. The problem is he lives 800 miles away. He came to visit me for 6 days at the end of December. Since we both don’t want to have an nternet relationship, we decided to stay friends. We pretty much are boyfriend and girlfriend, but there’s no stress and pressure to keep a relationship strong. I’ve become too attached to him and he’s the kind of person who is afraid of becoming to close to someone, so he keeps distancing himself from me. I feel so heartbroken and wonder if I’m wasting my time. It’s just the fact that I feel so rejected by him. In real life everything was perfect and we we’re so in love. Now he just keeps it at a friendship. He loves me and I love him, but I just feel so shut down. What do I do? Should I try not to become too attatched? Am I over-reacting? I’m really depressed.

Dee asked:


Here’s another one. So me and my ex brokeup. We are use to the club scene. We always went together always danced together and always to the same spot b/c its the best. Now that we are no longer together I dont just want to sit at home and not do anything but think of him, I still want to go out have fun and quickly get over his sorry self. Of course I still have feelings 4 him but I dont want it to let me down. Is it wrong that 4 me to keep going to our normal hang out. There’s the chance that he’ll be there but I want him to see that im trying to move on and that just because he brokeup with me, Im not at home feeling sorry for myself. Im really trying here and I want to move on with my life. Im not ugly and I treated him very well. The way that this guy just ended our relationship over nothing has left me a scar. Am I wrong for trying to move on and show that I am stronger and better than that. It beats sitting around at home and crying.

tastey2touch asked:


we have been together for 3 years i dont want him to get bored with our relationship,what is the best way to resolve communication problems, does anyone have advice on how to keep the spark in our relationship and help us grow stronger together

Mellissa J asked:


My best friend (a guy) and I have been best friends for 3 years I think. (I have had a crush on him all those years pretty much) This year, we both went to a lock in. We hung out with each other the whole night. On the hayride we shared a blanket because it was cold out, and he held my hand to warm it up. We were constantly flirting the whole night! Anyways, at about 3 in the morning everyone was pretty much asleep, and we were standing next to each other, looking at a poster. Then, we looked at each other, and he lifted my chin up, and we started making out, and that lasted about 30 mins. Before that night, I hadn’t even kissed a guy. I am a goody good. The next day he called to tell me that we couldn’t be like that because he had a gf. Then he came over, and wanted to make out again. After about a week, we met each other again, and this time, when we were making out, he wanted to lay down. I was like ok, but then, he started pulling at my pants, and I said, no I didn’t want to do that, but he kept pulling, and he is much stronger than me, so I gave up… I don’t know what to do, I can’t believe I even let him do that! I feel like its my fault! (no he didn’t rape me, he gave me oral…) But still, that’s way to far out of my comfort zone, and now, he hasn’t talked to me for a week. What do I do? Thanks in advance, I’m so confused!

-BWG- asked:


Ive known my friend 2nd grade, now we are juniors in high school. He used to go out with this one girl and he absolutely treated her like shit. He would call her fat and a bitch. Even though sometimes he was joking, it still dosent matter, i treat a girl with respect. but anyway when he broke up with her (he did it in a text by the way) he told her off for no reason and called her a hoe and all sorts of rude shit. After he did that, his X started talking to me and i calmed her down about the whole situation and she was crying and stuff. I have been chilling with her now and her and i have built a really strong relationship, and i have some deep feelings for her now. I know I’m probably end up going out but im gonna keep it a secret around my friend. Also my friend has stabbed me in the back plenty of times. But do you guys think it would be fucked up to go out with her? ive talked to many girls before but i have a different feeling for this girl