Written by I’ve been best friends with this girl all throughout high school. We hang out, talk, do all the things best friends do. A few months ago I felt a surge of romantic feeling for her. It was stronger and longer-lasting (still feel it till this day) than anything I previously felt for any other girl.
Unable to bear it anymore, I asked her out. Unfortunately, I was denied. After that, things were naturally a little awkward until at one point, she expressed her intense discomfort with me and the way I was acting (I honestly felt I was trying to get over her). I apologized and told her that I would back off for a while and let her relax and get back to me when she was feeling better about the whole situation.
After about a month (that felt like eternity), she started to resume normal communication with me. So for the past two months we’ve been best friends again (except she doesn’t hug me, which I understand). However, I am still left with my strong feelings for her.
My question is this: Would I be foolish to perhaps “wait” for her and see if she changes her mind (she has expressed liking for another guy)? Meaning that I can date other girls but still keep myself open to the possibility of a relationship with her. Or should I just try and move on, staying friends with her (easier said than done, I know)? (I’m a senior in HS, about to go to college)
Just hang out normally and slowly go in to it what you did was too fast for her. I did that once and she acted awkward towards me and now she is a regularly talking to me and yea
Meetr a new girl
Wait until college days when one’s feelings are more mature and understandable.
I’d say move on. she sounds like a lost cause.
rub one out
Go out with someone and then see if she acts weird because you are going out with someone else. Try it out. If she doesn’t, then just move on.
You can wait all you want for her, it won’t matter, she might change her mind in the future or she might not. Don’t be desperate and hang onto her. Try to move on, but don’t entirely forget about her. Still be her best friend and be there for her in case this new relationship for the new guy does not work out, she will still have you and maybe then she will realize you were always there for her.