What do you do, when a relationship with a best friend, becomes more than that?
November 22, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Singles & Dating
Mellissa J asked:
My best friend (a guy) and I have been best friends for 3 years I think. (I have had a crush on him all those years pretty much) This year, we both went to a lock in. We hung out with each other the whole night. On the hayride we shared a blanket because it was cold out, and he held my hand to warm it up. We were constantly flirting the whole night! Anyways, at about 3 in the morning everyone was pretty much asleep, and we were standing next to each other, looking at a poster. Then, we looked at each other, and he lifted my chin up, and we started making out, and that lasted about 30 mins. Before that night, I hadn’t even kissed a guy. I am a goody good. The next day he called to tell me that we couldn’t be like that because he had a gf. Then he came over, and wanted to make out again. After about a week, we met each other again, and this time, when we were making out, he wanted to lay down. I was like ok, but then, he started pulling at my pants, and I said, no I didn’t want to do that, but he kept pulling, and he is much stronger than me, so I gave up… I don’t know what to do, I can’t believe I even let him do that! I feel like its my fault! (no he didn’t rape me, he gave me oral…) But still, that’s way to far out of my comfort zone, and now, he hasn’t talked to me for a week. What do I do? Thanks in advance, I’m so confused!
My best friend (a guy) and I have been best friends for 3 years I think. (I have had a crush on him all those years pretty much) This year, we both went to a lock in. We hung out with each other the whole night. On the hayride we shared a blanket because it was cold out, and he held my hand to warm it up. We were constantly flirting the whole night! Anyways, at about 3 in the morning everyone was pretty much asleep, and we were standing next to each other, looking at a poster. Then, we looked at each other, and he lifted my chin up, and we started making out, and that lasted about 30 mins. Before that night, I hadn’t even kissed a guy. I am a goody good. The next day he called to tell me that we couldn’t be like that because he had a gf. Then he came over, and wanted to make out again. After about a week, we met each other again, and this time, when we were making out, he wanted to lay down. I was like ok, but then, he started pulling at my pants, and I said, no I didn’t want to do that, but he kept pulling, and he is much stronger than me, so I gave up… I don’t know what to do, I can’t believe I even let him do that! I feel like its my fault! (no he didn’t rape me, he gave me oral…) But still, that’s way to far out of my comfort zone, and now, he hasn’t talked to me for a week. What do I do? Thanks in advance, I’m so confused!
Brooke A on Mon, 23rd Nov 2009 10:54 am
if hes been ur bestfriend for 3 years and he has a gf he shouldnt be giving u oral i think u and him should take a break from eachother
ladytoobusytotalk on Thu, 26th Nov 2009 12:00 am
How old are you?
Maybe you should stay away from him for awhile.
He was the one to say he had a girlfriend. If he does, he needs to tell her what happened.
patriciapellew on Sat, 28th Nov 2009 6:49 pm
You need to stay away from him for a while. He cheated on his GF when he gave your oral. So that ought to show you what he would do to you if you and him ever got together. He was just using you and taking advantage of you. It’s not your fault, you were in a vulnerable position and he knew it. I would drop him as a friend, because your always going to feel uncomfortable around him now. You need to tell him this too face to face just so you can lift the weight off your shoulders.
Good luck