Written by Relationship Communication
First of all, let’s picture out what an ideal communication setting is.
Communication is two way. It is an exchange of ideas between two or more persons. It is an exchange of thoughts and feelings between the sender and the receiver. It is done in such a manner that the tone of the voice is calm, collected, respectful and considerate.
Since we are focusing on relationship communication, let us study how proper communication skills can positively impact a particular relationship. We are all a part of a relationship. This relationship could be father-son, father-daughter, mother-daughter, brother-sister, apprentice-boss, employee-employer and the list continues. The quality of the relationship we are in depends highly on how we communicate one with another. Without communication, the foundation of such a relationship can never be established. Just think, can you get something done just by staring at each other?
Effective communication at all levels of relationship is done in a simple manner. It doesn’t require that you dominate the conversation. It is not a competition. Rather, it is a way of exchanging thoughts and ideas that lead to understanding. If understanding is not achieved, then it is a sure sign that there must be something wrong on the way we express our thoughts. Adjustment is necessary. Again, adjusting your voice, your perceptions and your biases is not losing. If we think so, we should change such a mentality. You will know that how you are communicating is effective when the person you are talking to understands you and you understand him.
Some helpful tips on communication:
- Say what you mean. Don’t beat around the bush because for some, it is annoying.
- Be honest. Say what you truly feel and think but do it in a manner that you are not overbearing.
- Listen. Listen to what he or she means, not just the words he or she is saying.
- Restate. Restate what you think he or she meant and seek clarification whether you got what he or she meant.
- Focus on the topic at hand. Nothing is more baffling than to talk to somebody only to find out that what he or she is saying next is entirely out of the topic you are currently discussing.
- Be patient. Things take some time to develop. Don’t think for example, that if you are a fast talker and can quickly understand others, they have the same ability too. Adapt your skills to the person you are talking to.
As stated earlier, relationship communication is accomplished in two ways. Both parties should make a conscious effort to improve the quality of their communication. It takes time and effort but it is all worth it. Remember, the essence of effective communication is to understand and to be understood. It is not competing, authoritative and degenerative. Learn to use words that uplift, convey honor and respect. For sure, you will appreciate it if such is done to you too.
