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Are you currently feeling like you need relationship relief support? Are there signs that not all is well inside your love life? Maybe your lover has become incredibly elusive or even somewhat unresponsive to your attempts at conversation? Possibly these are just signs that your relationship partner is busier than usual and and just needs some help at breaking free from work related stresses? But what about your needs? Should you be a temporary relationship martyr until your partner comes back to life?
Before you get too anxious there might be a ton of logical behind why your lover has gone somewhat cool on you. Your partner could have a reason to be concerned about the job, funds or perhaps a health problem. Your partner may have already sought out a counselor to help deal with the issues without including you because of discomfort, or feeling too embarrassed about the issues in question to share them at this point in time.
This is definitely a challenging time for both you and your partner. Its about communication at a time when your partner is vulnerable, and possibly dealing with a threat like none ever experienced. And it is an area of concern that often arrives in nearly every relationship. Are you aware that the majority of young couples breakup not because of infidelity, but because they arrive at a point where they fail to be open to communication? Both relationship partners become blocked and they just stop, or limit their conversations with each other.
However , if you do not talk honestly about your issues as well as concerns about your relationship, unhealthy seeds start to be fertilized, based on uncertainty, and these baby seeds grow into huge vines that smother the very life out of your relationship…..if they are not removed quickly. Timing is important and you must not let is continue to tick away while you agonize, in silence about which path you need to take.
Take action. Ask your partner for help. That’s right, reverse the focus and ask for help. Ask it softly and compassionately, but do not procrastinate. Ask boldly and sensitively for your partner’s help.
If you have children in the home, get a sitter. If you’ve been living in the home, in silence for hours, or days, you’ll want to get away for a change of scenery. A part,or a church that has a sitting room, or a museum, or any quiet, but public place, can work, as long as you have a small measure of privacy for your conversation. The location sends the message that you’re going to have a sensible conversation, with little likelihood of a full out argument.
During your talk, simply mention how you’re feeling a little “off” and trying to clear your thoughts, however, you’ve wanted to allow your partner some space to heal the silent issues that are obviously being dealt with. This will allow your partner an opening to begin sharing, or not. In any case, use this time to get the situation out into the open.
It is important to be aware that strategies, like this, are not the all in all for every couple’s interactions. The best course of action when sudden changes like we have explored, is to seek a counselor or relationship coach. Whether singly or as a couple, outside support is considered mandatory when a partner suddenly, and silent withdraws from the relationship.
And my suggestion to anyone who is going through an experience where communication is becoming a challenge, or has altogether left the relationship, it is time to reach out to a relationship professional. Timing is vitally important. Don’t let too much of it pass before you take action.
Communication in a relationship is like air in the lungs.
Be well,
Mama E
P.S. I look forward to receiving your questions and comments. Email me at:Mama E@MamaEAnswers.com
