Written by =(The Anti-Troll)= asked:
So I am an Asian guy dating an Asian girl, unfortunately we go to an overwhelmingly White college (both of us transferring out soon). I like White people but our college has few minorities in it and usually it is common to hear some racial slurs being thrown your way.
So I am an Asian guy dating an Asian girl, unfortunately we go to an overwhelmingly White college (both of us transferring out soon). I like White people but our college has few minorities in it and usually it is common to hear some racial slurs being thrown your way.
So there was this guy who was trying to go with the girl I currently date and she turned him down. Now I fall in love with this girl (we have been together for 7 months) and we are still going strong but this guy keeps trying to screw us up. He would jump inbetween our conversations, go around preaching about “multiculturalism” and how my girlfriend is close minded for sticking with her own race, he messages my girlfriend on instant messenger and she had to block him, he keeps trying to get near her and one time she even yelled at him for it, and last but not least he talks a lot of trash to me and tries to find reasons to fight me and verbally insult me in public.
What can we do here to avoid him for a couple more months?
Try to find him a girlfriend, or find a friend who is willing to make believe she likes the guy. The idea is to distract him and hope he’ll eventually go away.
Well it seems to me like this guy is a total jealous prick. It’s very hard and I’m sure very irritating to avoid a guy like that…it’s probably not the easiest thing to do. But your best bet would be for you and your girlfriend to not even let this guy know that he’s buggin you. As hard as it sounds, completely ignore him. If he’s got a little bit of maturity in him, he will eventually stop trying.
Tell him what you dont like, tell him how it makes you feel, tell him what you want, tell him what will happen if he dont listen! talk to him when he is not busy,
This is your time to show your maturity and self-confidence. You don’t have to be a macho-masochistic he-man, but a scholar and a gentleman, keep a cool head while that guy show’s her how much of a jerk he is.
To avoid him, don’t walk the same path to class, take different routes to keep him guessing on where he’s going to wait for you. If you do run in to him be differential… do you have any martial arts training? There are way’s of positioning your self in non-threatening movements where you can keep you g/f safe without obviously being violent to someone that is an annoyance. Don’t take it to violence unless he throws the first blow. You want to impress your g/f that you can handle yourself, protect her without the situation getting out of control. Adversity does not change the man, it unmasks him.
Good luck, I hope leaving that school comes quickly.