Now You Too Can Learn How to Get Your Ex Back

HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK -  Stories of relationship breakups flow across the talk shows and reality TV like water over Niagara Falls. After breaking up with a partner, it is not unusual for “side affects” to be observed.

Most often you’re going to spend a lot of time looking toward the phone and hoping it will ring. You’ll spend an almost dangerous amount of time brooding over why this had to happen to you. After a week or so any idea of trying to save face by not acting desperate, ceases to be important.

So what does it take to make him want to care enough to drive by or call to see how you’re doing? And do you really want to look too interested? Wouldn’t it be a better idea to remain cool and play the role of being independent and self confident? The answer is yes, absolutely.

Starting on the road to getting your ex back after a breakup is easy on one level and tough on another. However, your best strategy is to go “cold turkey.” What this means is best illustrated through a few simple to follow but important steps.

For at least the first two weeks, don’t answer the phone. Use your phone services’ answering system or get software you can use to setup your PC to handle your phone calls.

If he drops by, don’t play it cool and try to behave like a good sport. And you’ll definitely want to avoid acting vindictive. Your best approach is to keep any unscheduled visits brief. And if he doesn’t call first, don’t open the door under any circumstances!

Keep yourself busy. Go to the library, volunteer at a women’s shelter, visit your local senior center and read for them an hour or so a day…every day or at least 2 or 3 days a week. Whatever you decide, find a substitute for sitting around with nothing but your thoughts. Something like spending an hour or so at Dave & Busters whacking the crap out of a bean bag or shooting hoops.

Or, imagine yourself dusting off an old love for sailing or roller skating or working on your breast stroke in the community pool. What about that novel you always intended to write…or finish? Whatever it takes, just don’t make yourself available for the first 2 or 3 weeks, minimum.

And if you forget everything on this list or just get weak, DO NOT entertain him when he tries to talk you into an innocent “let’s just have coffee” kind of date. You’ll only end up prolonging the period until your next breakup. Then you’ll have to start the process all over again…and this time we’re talkin’ 5 to 6 weeks instead of 3 to 4!

Now, after the 3rd or 4th week of following this proven, how to get your ex back strategy, you’re probably close to being a master of the playing-hard-to-get part of the process. You are ready to move into the final position required to get back with the ex.

You start the process for this with a “soft control.” What this means is you maintain your cool and never show even a hint of desperation.

Once the two of you meet you treat him like a good friend, or even a best friend, but nothing even close to treating him like the lover that he was in the past. That has to be earned back. Otherwise, he will not value it and will almost immediately return to the behavior that led to the breakup.

You want him to prove himself, and in all fairness, he did the breakup, now he has to lead the getting back with your ex part of the process. And if you’d like even more tips for getting your ex back just visit the Luv Doctr blog at LuvDoctr.com.