Damilare Banjo asked:

Relationships are a vital part of human life. From the kids in pre-school class, to the teenager who meets with his first love, to the junior executive who needs to get ahead in his career, to the business owner who needs to give his workers a sense belonging; it is obvious that we all need relationships. It is also a well known fact that, the quality of the relationships you keep will have a significant impact on the quality of your life and your sense of fulfillment. It is therefore important for you to know how to maintain your quality relationships, and this article reveals a very important way to add value to your relationships.

The foundation of every successful relationship is effective communication. To build a sound relationship, you need to learn how to express your exact feelings to the other person; but more importantly, you need to be a very good listener. Everyone has something to tell, it could be what gives us joy, sadness, or about things that cause us to worry and fret, no matter what the story is, we all treasure people who take out time to listen to us. Becoming a patient listener is therefore a sure way to build long lasting relationships. But there is a huge pitfall to avoid once you choose to become a listening partner – forgetfulness.

You’d admit that nothing hurts your friends quite as much as when you forget important details about them, or special ’secrets’ they’ve shared with you. Imagine the strain you put on your relationships each time you forget a friend’s birthday, a prearranged visit, or what you guys discussed just last night. It’s never a pretty situation to be in.

This puts us in some-what of a fix; listening adds much more value to your relationships, but forgetfulness could take each relationship right back to ground zero.

The Conclusion:

It would be worth your while to really concentrate when discussing important issues with a partner and you could even go a step further by learning some basic memory improvement techniques. If sustaining that relationship is truly important to you, then it would take only a little bit of discipline and sacrifice to work it!

♥Bella♥ asked:


How would you take this?
So I have been very close friends with this guy we will call him “James” for over a year and best friends with his sister (although she and the family do not talk to him because they hate his ex and what he has been doing with his life). We have a lot of times crossed over the friend line and have always felt attracted to each other physically as well as attracted to each other emotionally and share everything with each other. For many reason we never were fully a couple (mostly I couldn’t commit because of family issues and many times he did ask for us to be together). But we pretty much talked every day and would text each other each morning to say hi and have a great day. Well he told me this past weekend about the fact his “ex” of which they have not been together for close to 3 years came to him and asked him to give things another chance between them (she is pregnant with another mans baby and the man wants nothing to do with her or the baby and so she has come back to james). He was confused but said when he kids heard they were so happy and he didn’t want them to hate him if he didn’t give it one last chance. To be honest with you I am happy for him because I know he has been lonely without someone in his life since I have not been able to be the person for him in the full sense.
Anyway after he told me this I didn’t contact him (this was on a Saturday) I sent him an email Tuesday evening and just told him I wish him the best and that he has been such a special person in my life but that I do not want to come in between this chance he has. He called me the next day and we talked – here is what he said to me…how would you take this?

He said “we can still be friends its not like I am going to say okay goodbye Lucy. Of course we can still talk once in a while and we can still text if you want, I mean not loving names like we have before which kind of sucks because I still have feelings for you, not like I can just wipe those away. I don’t have my hopes up when it comes to the relationship with my ex because she has hurt me so much in the past but when I told my boys and to see how happy they were and crying it made me feel so happy inside to see them feel such happiness and to be honest I mean yes my ex was my wife and I do care about her but I mean it’s more than anything about my kids and the guilt i feel” at the beginning when we first got on the phone I said something silly and he said “you are so funny I love you” but like cut off the I love you like he caught himself and didn’t finish like he couldn’t say that anymore…..

I have to say I totally respect him for trying to make things work and be a family I think when you can keep your family together it’s really the best thing for everyone. But it’s so hard for me to have been close to someone for so long and then just all the sudden bam my fear of him getting back with his ex and leaving me behind have come true. How would you take what he said to me is he just being kind and letting me down easy or do you believe he has feelings or that he doesn’t really care if I am still in his life at all? Please don’t think I am trying to be some home-wrecking girl because I am not when we meet he was single and I always knew getting involved with someone with a past could end in hurt but it’s hard for me to sort all my feelings and realize that things are going to change big time and that I know I have to respect that. I am trying to be strong and know that family is first but I am in pain…does he really care or did he ever really love me?

Kay48219 asked:


Hello, My name is Kay I am a female 20 years of age, I am trying to improve my life and experience what it takes to fully succeed at all my goals, hopes and dreams as well mature from a young lady into a women. I know this is a long questions and I would like to say THANK YOU for all whom answers my question(s).

PLEASE NOTE: Not to be rude but I only really want to hear from those who have succeeded in their life’s and have a good head on their shoulders, I rather hear from women/men of age since they are more experienced.

QUESTION 1) Careers, I have a dream to become a doctor and have had this dream since I was 9 years of age, I am going to take small step’s STEP-BY-STEP to obtain my degree as well maintain being their for my son (3) and boyfriend of over a year (33). I plan on first taking a nurse assistant class then climb the ropes over these next years of my life until my dreams come true.
Can you give me any tips and/or story’s from your experience that may be a asset to me along these next lets say 10 years as I live out my dream????????

QUESTION 2) I have been with my boyfriend (33) since November/19/2009, we been though alot together in the short period of shearing our lifes as one….. We lost a baby, had a house fire, been homeless, hustled, court cases, bought a home….. and so much more I MAEN EVERYTHING we had it hard, but we been though it all and stay strong and held each and another down. He takes good care of my son who is not even his (THATS A REAL MAN) and he doesnt even have to he chose to, and sadly to say his real dad aint even in the picture (DEADBEAT) well anyways I have never cheat dont live shear my hopes dreams wants goals fillings and everything with him, let go of all my male friends I dont party I do not drink/smoke I dont even go shopping with tha gals IM AT WORK SCHOOL or HOME lol and thats how I chose to be…… I love my man with all my heart.
WE DO LIVE TOGETHER Im the type of woman I cook clean please my family daily that is what brings me joy and happiness so my question is for the people who had long term relationships that lasted like 10-30- 40years HOW????????? I mean how do you do it and stay happy you now, after 60years and still in love happy. I mean give me your advice that keeps your relationship strong, what do you do? anything because this man is the best man I ever meet and Im a good woman, Yhwh blessed us to shear our lifes together and I never want this to end Im so happy and in-love.

QUESTION 3) Parenting, any tips comments remarks advice please give Im the mother of a 3year old boy, I lost a baby few month back and Im trying agian. I love children and would enjoy hearing what you have to say moms/dads so let me hear from you.

QUESTION 4) what is the best thing I can do for myself to become a better human being then what I already am??????

QUESTION 5) What made you successful and when I say successful I’m not only talking about money, money only plays a small factor, I mean successful at living a happy life. being healthy, going old, tips on being a good wife/mother, tips about jobs/careers, tips about owning your home, EVERYTHING THAT MAY HAPPEN IN MY LIFE I WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL. turn the bad in to good and the good into greatness. I want to be the best I can be as my spirit controls the body that makes of my appearance.

QUESTION 6) I just recently bought my house on land-contract, its my first time buying but I have rented before this is just on a higher level in a sort of way so any tips comments or story you would like to shear would be awesome.

THANKS EVERYBODY!!!! MAY YOU ALL HAVE A BLESSED SAFE LIFE.
In the question RELATIONSHIPS, I’ve made a spelling mistake lol I put don’t live I meant to put don’t LIE, sorry!

natasha asked:


well recently i have been very stubborn towards my boyfriend and when i’m upset with him i give him the silent treatment and i keep trying to break up with him… and i realize that i’m being so stupid and i apologized to him and broke down crying
it’s just i get so jealous and think he is going to cheat on me
and he is going to find someone else and dump me
and that i’m pushing him away and eventually i’m going to end up single
and i don’t want that
because i love him and i am so sad without him
is there any way that i can make our relationship better
like how it was before all of this?
like make our love stronger?
please help
best awnser 10 pts