Tom asked:


I’ve been best friends with this girl all throughout high school. We hang out, talk, do all the things best friends do. A few months ago I felt a surge of romantic feeling for her. It was stronger and longer-lasting (still feel it till this day) than anything I previously felt for any other girl.

Unable to bear it anymore, I asked her out. Unfortunately, I was denied. After that, things were naturally a little awkward until at one point, she expressed her intense discomfort with me and the way I was acting (I honestly felt I was trying to get over her). I apologized and told her that I would back off for a while and let her relax and get back to me when she was feeling better about the whole situation.

After about a month (that felt like eternity), she started to resume normal communication with me. So for the past two months we’ve been best friends again (except she doesn’t hug me, which I understand). However, I am still left with my strong feelings for her.

My question is this: Would I be foolish to perhaps “wait” for her and see if she changes her mind (she has expressed liking for another guy)? Meaning that I can date other girls but still keep myself open to the possibility of a relationship with her. Or should I just try and move on, staying friends with her (easier said than done, I know)? (I’m a senior in HS, about to go to college)