Relationships – Live By Values For Long Lasting Relationship

Long-Term Relationships

What Makes a Lasting Relationship

Today many find themselves going through one relationship after another. This is because they usually don’t know what makes a lasting relationship. Here are some quick tips on what you can do to make sure your relationships have staying power:

- Don’t rush in to a relationship with someone. Many people do this because they’re lonely. A little loneliness now though can save you a lot of loneliness later when you find this approach failing time and time again. Take the time out to get to know your love interest.

- Don’t just be lovers. Be friends. We can all agree that a friendship is more likely to last than a torrid romance. A lasting relationship is a mix of the two. Think of the torrid romance as being the spark that makes things worthwhile, and the friendship as the glue that holds it all together. Without that glue, even if the romance is worth it, things will still fall apart.

- Learn how to communicate with various types of people. The more personality types you can communicate well with, the more likely you are to get along well with someone in a relationship. In a lasting relationship, there’s good communication.

- Know what you want out of a relationship. How can you expect to find the right person if you don’t know what you’re looking for? Also, lasting relationships consist of two people that have common goals in their lives. If you don’t share common goals with someone, it’s better to find someone that you do share common goals with.

- Make the relationship a priority. If it’s not important to you, what makes you think it will last?

- Accept things for what they are. That includes people. In lasting relationships, both partners accept the other for who they are.

- Change what you can. If there’s anything you’ve accepted that you can change, don’t just stand there. Do something about it!

- Learn how to share. Remember all those lessons about sharing from back when you were 5? No? Then now may be a good time to brush up on them. In lasting relationships, both partners know how to share.

- Assume nothing. Always take your partner for his/her word. Lasting relationships have mutual trust.

- Have a sense of humor. Couples that stay together forever are those that know how to laugh at their mistakes.

- Be forgiving. Sometimes it’s better to forgive and forget than to fight and break up.

- Be selfless. In a lasting relationship, both partners consider the well being of the other before themselves.

- Be a kid. Happy couples are young at heart.

- But know when to be an adult. Happy couples know when to get serious.

- Try to look your best for your partner. It makes it more likely that your partner will do the same and that you both keep the romance blooming.

- Don’t avoid fights – learn from them. The longer you hold something in the more likely it is to make an explosion once you pop. Think of fights as being learning experiences – they’re a chance to see what you can do better in the relationship

If you apply these tips, you will find yourself on the road to a lasting relationship in no time.

Now You Too Can Learn How to Get Your Ex Back

HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK -  Stories of relationship breakups flow across the talk shows and reality TV like water over Niagara Falls. After breaking up with a partner, it is not unusual for “side affects” to be observed.

Most often you’re going to spend a lot of time looking toward the phone and hoping it will ring. You’ll spend an almost dangerous amount of time brooding over why this had to happen to you. After a week or so any idea of trying to save face by not acting desperate, ceases to be important.

So what does it take to make him want to care enough to drive by or call to see how you’re doing? And do you really want to look too interested? Wouldn’t it be a better idea to remain cool and play the role of being independent and self confident? The answer is yes, absolutely.

Starting on the road to getting your ex back after a breakup is easy on one level and tough on another. However, your best strategy is to go “cold turkey.” What this means is best illustrated through a few simple to follow but important steps.

For at least the first two weeks, don’t answer the phone. Use your phone services’ answering system or get software you can use to setup your PC to handle your phone calls.

If he drops by, don’t play it cool and try to behave like a good sport. And you’ll definitely want to avoid acting vindictive. Your best approach is to keep any unscheduled visits brief. And if he doesn’t call first, don’t open the door under any circumstances!

Keep yourself busy. Go to the library, volunteer at a women’s shelter, visit your local senior center and read for them an hour or so a day…every day or at least 2 or 3 days a week. Whatever you decide, find a substitute for sitting around with nothing but your thoughts. Something like spending an hour or so at Dave & Busters whacking the crap out of a bean bag or shooting hoops.

Or, imagine yourself dusting off an old love for sailing or roller skating or working on your breast stroke in the community pool. What about that novel you always intended to write…or finish? Whatever it takes, just don’t make yourself available for the first 2 or 3 weeks, minimum.

And if you forget everything on this list or just get weak, DO NOT entertain him when he tries to talk you into an innocent “let’s just have coffee” kind of date. You’ll only end up prolonging the period until your next breakup. Then you’ll have to start the process all over again…and this time we’re talkin’ 5 to 6 weeks instead of 3 to 4!

Now, after the 3rd or 4th week of following this proven, how to get your ex back strategy, you’re probably close to being a master of the playing-hard-to-get part of the process. You are ready to move into the final position required to get back with the ex.

You start the process for this with a “soft control.” What this means is you maintain your cool and never show even a hint of desperation.

Once the two of you meet you treat him like a good friend, or even a best friend, but nothing even close to treating him like the lover that he was in the past. That has to be earned back. Otherwise, he will not value it and will almost immediately return to the behavior that led to the breakup.

You want him to prove himself, and in all fairness, he did the breakup, now he has to lead the getting back with your ex part of the process. And if you’d like even more tips for getting your ex back just visit the Luv Doctr blog at LuvDoctr.com.

Couples Counselling

Couples Counselling

Couples counselling is a method devised to assist anyone, a couple or an individual that is having a hard time in their relationships.  This is also applicable to those who are having difficulty maintaining a progressive relationship.  Through this method, participants are placed in a conducive and safe atmosphere wherein they are free and comfortable to express their thoughts and feelings.  It is also an effective tool in helping communication associated concerns.

Couples counselling is intended to increase awareness and understanding of how the problems they are facing affect the quality of their relationship.  This knowledge now can be used to find ways to Read more