Family: How to Balance Having a Family and a Career
November 28, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under I Love You Poems, More >>, Relationship Breakdown, Relationship Communication, Relationship Psychology, Relationship Strategies
Are you a career-oriented woman who also happens to be a parent? If you are, you may be dealing with a number of different issues. Many women, just like yourself, find it somewhat difficult to balance having a career and a family. While it is more than possible to do both, it can be overwhelming at times.
One of the many issues surrounding working mothers is that they do not know how to balance their time. Mothers who need to work or finish an upcoming project often do so, but they occasionally feel guilty about missing out on quality time with their children or their romantic partner. It can also be the other way around, as well.
Many working mothers are afraid to, essentially, put their family first in certain situations, in fear of losing their jobs. If these are issues that you have dealt with or if they are issues that you are currently dealing with now, you will want to continue reading on.
One of the many ways that you can go about balancing a family and a career is by setting aside time for both your family and your important career. For instance, if at all possible, you will want to try and establish hours just for work or work related tasks.
If you have to work overtime, it is advised that you do so, especially if your job may be at risk. That is often what is difficult for many mothers, when relying on their income, it can be fearful to put work second. With that in mind, it is important that you leave work at work. This gives you the opportunity to put your family first, especially when you are at home with them.
As with having set hours for work, it is also advised that you create a schedule for your family time as well. While your days don’t have to be planned out hour by hour, it is nice to at least develop a little schedule. This schedule could include days of the week when you may want to take a trip to the zoo with you children or days that you may want to spend visiting family.
By having your plans already made and in place, you are more likely to follow through with them. Your family, including your children and your partner, will likely be pleased with this follow through.
Although raising a family is often associated with spending time with your children, that is not all that motherhood is about. For that reason, you likely have a full plate. That plate may include grocery shopping, the preparation of family meals, as well as house cleaning.
To reduce the stress associated with many of these tasks, as well as give you more quality time to spend with you family, you may want to consider hiring assistance. Whether you choose to hire a professional housekeeper or a landscaper to mow your yard for you, this extra time may come in handy.
The above mentioned points are just a few of the many ways that you can go about balancing a career and a family. Although it may seem impossible to do right now, especially if you just recently got a new job or had your first child, it is more than possible for you have a great career, as well as happy and healthy family life at home.
How do i keep things strong>>?
November 27, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Singles & Dating
Through out the past ive been in horrible relationships…..ive been cheated on and miss treated….a year ago along came my sweet wonderful boyfriend and i couldnt be happier. But im always getting afraid and insecure and here and there i try my best not to let my guard down and its all due to fear of being hurt. I mean i should know better he isnt that way hes completely faithful and even a wonderful father to his kids. what can i do to remain confident and to let me keep my guard down and trust that he wouldnt hurt me…?
Now You Too Can Learn How to Get Your Ex Back
November 27, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Couples Counselling
HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK - Stories of relationship breakups flow across the talk shows and reality TV like water over Niagara Falls. After breaking up with a partner, it is not unusual for “side affects” to be observed.
Most often you’re going to spend a lot of time looking toward the phone and hoping it will ring. You’ll spend an almost dangerous amount of time brooding over why this had to happen to you. After a week or so any idea of trying to save face by not acting desperate, ceases to be important.
So what does it take to make him want to care enough to drive by or call to see how you’re doing? And do you really want to look too interested? Wouldn’t it be a better idea to remain cool and play the role of being independent and self confident? The answer is yes, absolutely.
Starting on the road to getting your ex back after a breakup is easy on one level and tough on another. However, your best strategy is to go “cold turkey.” What this means is best illustrated through a few simple to follow but important steps.
You start the process for this with a “soft control.” What this means is you maintain your cool and never show even a hint of desperation.
Once the two of you meet you treat him like a good friend, or even a best friend, but nothing even close to treating him like the lover that he was in the past. That has to be earned back. Otherwise, he will not value it and will almost immediately return to the behavior that led to the breakup.
You want him to prove himself, and in all fairness, he did the breakup, now he has to lead the getting back with your ex part of the process. And if you’d like even more tips for getting your ex back just visit the Luv Doctr blog at LuvDoctr.com.
Long question but please read and help–feeling very sad but in a way think it’s for the best?
November 25, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Other - Family & Relationships
How would you take this?
So I have been very close friends with this guy we will call him “James” for over a year and best friends with his sister (although she and the family do not talk to him because they hate his ex and what he has been doing with his life). We have a lot of times crossed over the friend line and have always felt attracted to each other physically as well as attracted to each other emotionally and share everything with each other. For many reason we never were fully a couple (mostly I couldn’t commit because of family issues and many times he did ask for us to be together). But we pretty much talked every day and would text each other each morning to say hi and have a great day. Well he told me this past weekend about the fact his “ex” of which they have not been together for close to 3 years came to him and asked him to give things another chance between them (she is pregnant with another mans baby and the man wants nothing to do with her or the baby and so she has come back to james). He was confused but said when he kids heard they were so happy and he didn’t want them to hate him if he didn’t give it one last chance. To be honest with you I am happy for him because I know he has been lonely without someone in his life since I have not been able to be the person for him in the full sense.
Anyway after he told me this I didn’t contact him (this was on a Saturday) I sent him an email Tuesday evening and just told him I wish him the best and that he has been such a special person in my life but that I do not want to come in between this chance he has. He called me the next day and we talked – here is what he said to me…how would you take this?
He said “we can still be friends its not like I am going to say okay goodbye Lucy. Of course we can still talk once in a while and we can still text if you want, I mean not loving names like we have before which kind of sucks because I still have feelings for you, not like I can just wipe those away. I don’t have my hopes up when it comes to the relationship with my ex because she has hurt me so much in the past but when I told my boys and to see how happy they were and crying it made me feel so happy inside to see them feel such happiness and to be honest I mean yes my ex was my wife and I do care about her but I mean it’s more than anything about my kids and the guilt i feel” at the beginning when we first got on the phone I said something silly and he said “you are so funny I love you” but like cut off the I love you like he caught himself and didn’t finish like he couldn’t say that anymore…..
I have to say I totally respect him for trying to make things work and be a family I think when you can keep your family together it’s really the best thing for everyone. But it’s so hard for me to have been close to someone for so long and then just all the sudden bam my fear of him getting back with his ex and leaving me behind have come true. How would you take what he said to me is he just being kind and letting me down easy or do you believe he has feelings or that he doesn’t really care if I am still in his life at all? Please don’t think I am trying to be some home-wrecking girl because I am not when we meet he was single and I always knew getting involved with someone with a past could end in hurt but it’s hard for me to sort all my feelings and realize that things are going to change big time and that I know I have to respect that. I am trying to be strong and know that family is first but I am in pain…does he really care or did he ever really love me?
ADVICE AND ANSWERS. please read all before answering?
November 24, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Other - Family & Relationships
Hello, My name is Kay I am a female 20 years of age, I am trying to improve my life and experience what it takes to fully succeed at all my goals, hopes and dreams as well mature from a young lady into a women. I know this is a long questions and I would like to say THANK YOU for all whom answers my question(s).
PLEASE NOTE: Not to be rude but I only really want to hear from those who have succeeded in their life’s and have a good head on their shoulders, I rather hear from women/men of age since they are more experienced.
QUESTION 1) Careers, I have a dream to become a doctor and have had this dream since I was 9 years of age, I am going to take small step’s STEP-BY-STEP to obtain my degree as well maintain being their for my son (3) and boyfriend of over a year (33). I plan on first taking a nurse assistant class then climb the ropes over these next years of my life until my dreams come true.
Can you give me any tips and/or story’s from your experience that may be a asset to me along these next lets say 10 years as I live out my dream????????
QUESTION 2) I have been with my boyfriend (33) since November/19/2009, we been though alot together in the short period of shearing our lifes as one….. We lost a baby, had a house fire, been homeless, hustled, court cases, bought a home….. and so much more I MAEN EVERYTHING we had it hard, but we been though it all and stay strong and held each and another down. He takes good care of my son who is not even his (THATS A REAL MAN) and he doesnt even have to he chose to, and sadly to say his real dad aint even in the picture (DEADBEAT) well anyways I have never cheat dont live shear my hopes dreams wants goals fillings and everything with him, let go of all my male friends I dont party I do not drink/smoke I dont even go shopping with tha gals IM AT WORK SCHOOL or HOME lol and thats how I chose to be…… I love my man with all my heart.
WE DO LIVE TOGETHER Im the type of woman I cook clean please my family daily that is what brings me joy and happiness so my question is for the people who had long term relationships that lasted like 10-30- 40years HOW????????? I mean how do you do it and stay happy you now, after 60years and still in love happy. I mean give me your advice that keeps your relationship strong, what do you do? anything because this man is the best man I ever meet and Im a good woman, Yhwh blessed us to shear our lifes together and I never want this to end Im so happy and in-love.
QUESTION 3) Parenting, any tips comments remarks advice please give Im the mother of a 3year old boy, I lost a baby few month back and Im trying agian. I love children and would enjoy hearing what you have to say moms/dads so let me hear from you.
QUESTION 4) what is the best thing I can do for myself to become a better human being then what I already am??????
QUESTION 5) What made you successful and when I say successful I’m not only talking about money, money only plays a small factor, I mean successful at living a happy life. being healthy, going old, tips on being a good wife/mother, tips about jobs/careers, tips about owning your home, EVERYTHING THAT MAY HAPPEN IN MY LIFE I WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL. turn the bad in to good and the good into greatness. I want to be the best I can be as my spirit controls the body that makes of my appearance.
QUESTION 6) I just recently bought my house on land-contract, its my first time buying but I have rented before this is just on a higher level in a sort of way so any tips comments or story you would like to shear would be awesome.
THANKS EVERYBODY!!!! MAY YOU ALL HAVE A BLESSED SAFE LIFE.
In the question RELATIONSHIPS, I’ve made a spelling mistake lol I put don’t live I meant to put don’t LIE, sorry!
What can i do to keep him intrested in ME?
November 23, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Singles & Dating
we have been together for 3 years i dont want him to get bored with our relationship,what is the best way to resolve communication problems, does anyone have advice on how to keep the spark in our relationship and help us grow stronger together
What do you do, when a relationship with a best friend, becomes more than that?
November 22, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Singles & Dating
My best friend (a guy) and I have been best friends for 3 years I think. (I have had a crush on him all those years pretty much) This year, we both went to a lock in. We hung out with each other the whole night. On the hayride we shared a blanket because it was cold out, and he held my hand to warm it up. We were constantly flirting the whole night! Anyways, at about 3 in the morning everyone was pretty much asleep, and we were standing next to each other, looking at a poster. Then, we looked at each other, and he lifted my chin up, and we started making out, and that lasted about 30 mins. Before that night, I hadn’t even kissed a guy. I am a goody good. The next day he called to tell me that we couldn’t be like that because he had a gf. Then he came over, and wanted to make out again. After about a week, we met each other again, and this time, when we were making out, he wanted to lay down. I was like ok, but then, he started pulling at my pants, and I said, no I didn’t want to do that, but he kept pulling, and he is much stronger than me, so I gave up… I don’t know what to do, I can’t believe I even let him do that! I feel like its my fault! (no he didn’t rape me, he gave me oral…) But still, that’s way to far out of my comfort zone, and now, he hasn’t talked to me for a week. What do I do? Thanks in advance, I’m so confused!
I have strong feelings with one of my best friends x girl friends?
November 18, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Singles & Dating
Ive known my friend 2nd grade, now we are juniors in high school. He used to go out with this one girl and he absolutely treated her like shit. He would call her fat and a bitch. Even though sometimes he was joking, it still dosent matter, i treat a girl with respect. but anyway when he broke up with her (he did it in a text by the way) he told her off for no reason and called her a hoe and all sorts of rude shit. After he did that, his X started talking to me and i calmed her down about the whole situation and she was crying and stuff. I have been chilling with her now and her and i have built a really strong relationship, and i have some deep feelings for her now. I know I’m probably end up going out but im gonna keep it a secret around my friend. Also my friend has stabbed me in the back plenty of times. But do you guys think it would be fucked up to go out with her? ive talked to many girls before but i have a different feeling for this girl
How can i make my relationship stronger?
November 14, 2009 by Mama E
Filed under Other - Family & Relationships
well recently i have been very stubborn towards my boyfriend and when i’m upset with him i give him the silent treatment and i keep trying to break up with him… and i realize that i’m being so stupid and i apologized to him and broke down crying
it’s just i get so jealous and think he is going to cheat on me
and he is going to find someone else and dump me
and that i’m pushing him away and eventually i’m going to end up single
and i don’t want that
because i love him and i am so sad without him
is there any way that i can make our relationship better
like how it was before all of this?
like make our love stronger?
please help
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