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Win Back Love

Win Back Love

It is alas natural sometimes, that we experience break-ups in our relationships.  They happen for a number of reasons.  Whatever the reason might be, we must learn to take time to evaluate they things happened the way they did and what we can learn from such an experience.  If not, we just lost a wonderful opportunity to gain wisdom.

Sometimes, when our relationships break down, we tend defend ourselves and think that it was our partner’s fault.  We let go of that someone we hold special and dear in our hearts only to realize at a later part that we did something wrong: we let our special someone go.  But alas, it is already too late.  He or she has already gone her way and moved on leaving us to wonder what might have been.

Winning back love is a very challenging task!  It can be daunting, most especially if we are the one at fault and are the reason of the breakdown.  Since we realized that we need our former partner back in our life, we do the best we can to win her or him back.  To win back love, one must make necessary sacrifices to Read more

I Love You Poems

I LOVE YOU POEMS – Ever since the dawn time, romance has been one of the most celebrated topics.  A riveting romantic story can give us the chills, inspire us and make us wish that such a story can happen in our lives.  There is something about romance that touches the deepest chambers of our hearts and melts us and make us want to fall in love. Read more

Couples Counselling

Couples Counselling

Couples counselling is a method devised to assist anyone, a couple or an individual that is having a hard time in their relationships.  This is also applicable to those who are having difficulty maintaining a progressive relationship.  Through this method, participants are placed in a conducive and safe atmosphere wherein they are free and comfortable to express their thoughts and feelings.  It is also an effective tool in helping communication associated concerns.

Couples counselling is intended to increase awareness and understanding of how the problems they are facing affect the quality of their relationship.  This knowledge now can be used to find ways to Read more

Relationship Communication

Relationship Communication

First of all, let’s picture out what an ideal communication setting is.

Communication is two way.  It is an exchange of ideas between two or more persons.  It is an exchange of thoughts and feelings between the sender and the receiver.  It is done in such a manner that the tone of the voice is calm, collected, respectful and considerate.

Since we are focusing on relationship communication, let us study how proper communication skills can positively impact a particular relationship.  We are all a part of a relationship.  This relationship could be Read more

How Significant is Your Other?

The other day I found myself thinking about the phrase which we commonly use in discussing people with whom we’re in intimate relationships. I wonder who thought of that title? Significant other…

What is a “significant other”?, I thought, as I allowed my mind to take issue with some of the common day terminology. The dictionary defines significant in this way: 1. Having meaning. 2. Suggesting or containing disguised or special meanng. 3. Important, Weighty.

And then, the second part of the phrase is “other”. Other what? I can only assume that the clever person who came up with the phrase meant “an other person? Perhaps it suggests that there is only one other person in my life who is important. Or, maybe, the phrase means that of the other people with whom I associate, this one has meaning, or is special.

Let’s go with that. So, for the sake of ths discussion, people who are in committed relationships with another human being, who feel that the person is meaningful, and important, qualify for the “significant other” title. Alright, this will be the basis of the dialogue.

There are many couples who have made the decision to spend time with, (sometimes exclusively), to share intimate thoughts and concerns, to express dreams and goals, and most often, nowadays, to share living quarters (which includes bedroom activities), expenses, and household needs. From the outside, it looks like a marriage, because all of the afore mentioned things are typically descriptive of marriage.

In my conversations with people who have “significant others”, I ask,” how is this different from what married people experience? The answer can either sway one of two ways: Either we’re not ready for marriage, or I’m just as committed to him/her (after all, marriage is just a piece of paper).

Here’s my thought. If you’re doing what married people do, if you feel about each other like married people feel, and if you provide for each other what married people provide, why won’t you make the commitment to each other which merely says, “I’m going to stay”. My take on cohabiting is that it permits a person to “leave the back door open”. It says that one is not absolutely positive that “you are the one”; it allows us to keep our options available, just in case, we find something better.

Which causes me to ask, just how significant could one be, if the possibility of finding someone else is always hovering over the relationship? Maybe the phrase should be “temporarily significant”, or “possibly significant”, or not so significant, after all.

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Relationship Psychology

Relationship Psychology

There are many views and perspectives towards relationships.  This is what we call Relationship Psychology.  To better understand relationship psychology, let us simplify and break down a relationship into three parts: first part – relationship formation; second part – relationship endurance; third part – coping with failed relationships.

For the first part, relationships form when there is interpersonal attraction.  We view this as a stage where we get to know the person who we are attracted to.  Basically, this is the time when we “gather” information about them and evaluate whether their preferences are compatible to ours.  This is a very exciting part!  We feel excited all the time, we feel excited and we look forward to spend time with that person.  The more we learn about the person, the more it Read more

Marriage Counselling

Marriage Counselling

More and more couples go through marriage counselling to fix their marriages.  As sad as it may seem, this is the reality that societies and nations in the world are facing.  Much has been written about how helpful marriage counseling is and many couples even gave their testimonials how this particular doctor or counsellor has helped them resolve their marriage problems.

Today, I will focus on a different side of marriage counselling.  Counselling that is designed to prevent marriage woes, not fix them.  As the time-old adage says, “an ounce of prevention is better that a pound of cure”.  Think with me for a moment, wouldn’t it be much easier not to go through marriage counselling?  Consider the benefits: less expenses, unnecessary pain and hurt are avoided, trust and love grow stronger instead of weaker, the couples’ time and focus on their children are not set aside, the children’s need for attention is met, the children’s confidence is not shaken, home is as it should be, a place for peace and joy, so on and Read more

Marriage Guidance

Marriage Guidance

Marriage guidance plays a very crucial role in married life.  The presence of sound marriage guidance will result in a happy and fulfilling marriage.  Its absence will bring the opposite effect.  There are more marriage breakdowns now compared to 20 to 30 years ago.  And, the trends say it is increasing.

What normally happens is that newly married couples are so much in love with each other that everything is wonderful at the start of their marriage.  Then, as the years go by, the level of love and affection seems to diminish and things take a different turn.  Passiveness, competition and a false sense of security may settle in and form a high wall between partners.  As a result, communication breaks down, and what was once a happy and fulfilling marriage now becomes Read more

Relationship Strategies

Relationship Strategies

Relationship strategies consist of, or can be broken down into two components: relationships and strategies.  Let’s take a look at relationships first!

1/ Relationships can only exist if there are two parties involved.  There’s no such thing as a  “singular” relationship. There has to be at least two persons in the relationship.  These two persons have to have something in which both of them are in agreement with.  Otherwise, they would not bother to correspond / talk / share with each other.  Whatever it is that they are in agreement on, it’s entirely up to them for the relationship to work.

2/ Strategies

A course or courses of action designed to achieve a specific objective or purpose.  Strategies are very important. They are essential ingredients in one’s journey to success.  No matter how good or noble an objective might be, it would be very difficult, if not impossible to achieve without Read more